I'll Be Home for Christmas...If Only in My Dreams
The Christmas season has always been my favorite time of the
year. Who doesn’t love Christmas
carols, the holiday parties, the cheery decorations, peppermint and
gingerbread, twinkling Christmas lights, and the smell of a Christmas tree? My
family has so many traditions surrounding Christmas: my Mom going into a baking
storm, picking out and putting up the tree right after Thanksgiving, the annual
Brosnihan Christmas party, caroling with my cousins, and celebrating three
Christmases: with my Dad’s family on Christmas Eve, my Mom’s family, and just
our nuclear family. When I was little, I would cry after Christmas was over,
because it would be another 364 days till we could celebrate it again.
The Brosnihan Family Christmas Tree |
This has been the strangest
Christmas season for me in my whole life. Here in Rwanda, there’s no drop in
temperature to tell me Christmas is on its way. No one in my village has ever
seen snow before, and I feel like a crazy person trying to describe building
snowmen and going sledding. There are no candy canes or gingerbread to be
eaten, and no Christmas trees to be decorated. There are no radio stations
blasting my favorite Christmas songs 24-7. I asked my co-workers at the Health Center what they’re
doing for Christmas, but inevitably the question was met with a shrug and an
answer like, “Just going to Church." I asked the nuns if
Rwandans had anything like Santa Claus or Pere Noel, any kind of jolly figure
who gives presents to children. They exchanged glances and one of the sisters
said that Rwanda is too poor for Santa Claus and that he only goes to rich
countries. The only thing that is any aberration from ordinary time is that the
priest wears different colored garments for Advent.
There won't be snow in Africa this Christmastime |
Despite my intense Christmas
enthusiasm, I used to roll my eyes every time stores would put up Christmas
decorations earlier and earlier each year (currently somewhere around the 4th
of July). I would write-off some of the holiday hoopla as excessive and
consumeristic (blow-up lawn Santas and snowmen, I’m talking to you). But I have
to say; I miss not having any of it. I would gladly eat my words for every time
I criticized someone for playing Christmas tunes before Thanksgiving if I could
have just a little of that Christmas cheer over here.
A White Christmas in Omaha, Nebraska |
But more than the decorations or
tasty food or blinding holiday light displays, Christmas has always been about being
with my family. Year after year, all six members of the Brosnihan Bunch would
be home from the corners of the globe to enjoy my Mom’s fabulous baking, watch some
really embarrassing old home videos, get buff arms from shoveling ourselves out
of the inevitable snowpocalypse, and walk together to St. Cecilia’s Cathedral for
Christmas mass. This will be my first Christmas away from home, and also the
longest time I’ve been continually outside of the U.S. (going on 8 months!).
I’m sure some of the homesickness will be abated by the fact that I’ll be on
the tropical island of Zanzibar with some of my Peace Corps friends for
Christmas and New Years. But right now I think I’ll make myself a cup of tea,
watch “It’s a Wonderful Life”, and try to get into the Christmas spirit. If
you’re home for Christmas, give your loved ones an extra hug. They’re far more irreplaceable
and valuable than all of the holiday decorations combined.
Claire, this is my third Christmas away from home and the second in Africa, so I get it. I've never been a huge fan of all the Christmas hoopla, but being far from family for the holidays really does put their importance into perspective. Hope it's not too hard for you. Have a happy, sunny Christmas. =]
ReplyDeleteAww thanks Claudia!! You too :)
ReplyDeleteLove reading your updates! We hesitate to tell you that last night we had our first snowstorm of the season. It is here with a vengance! They said on tv this morning that 42,000 people in Omaha area are without power. There was actually thunder snow last night. Lightening and thunder mixed in with the snowfall. That's unusual. Blowing snow everywhere. Your dad was late for work, which has to be the first time in his life! He can trek through a blizzard with no fear usually. Know that Christmas without your family goes two ways. They miss you as much as you miss them. But, we know that what you are doing for Rwandans is a great gift to the people there. I'm sure that many agree with me when I say how proud we are of you on your journey in Rwanda. Have a Blessed Christmas with your new "family".
ReplyDeleteGail (and the crew here at your dad's Office.)
As for Christmas, Dr Seuss once said,"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."
ReplyDeleteGail